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Kink & BDSM

You might be interested in trying kink or BDSM for the first time and exploring your own pleasure and desires. You should choose a sexual partner(s) that you feel comfortable with when trying Kink or BDSM activities always, but especially for the first time. 

There’s a lot to learn about Kink and BDSM, including terms, culture, and community around Kink and BDSM. 

Kink, BDSM, and Pleasure

Kink and BDSM should be pleasurable! There are many different activities you can try and explore to find what is most pleasurable and fun for you. 

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Kink, BDSM, and Consent

It is completely okay to stop when trying something new if it makes you uncomfortable or if you don’t like it. Your partner(s) should respect your request and stop immediately. They should not pressure you to keep going. 

Trying kink and BDSM is completely up to you. It does not and never will mean that you automatically and always agree to sexual activities like being slapped, choked, or called names. Kink and BDSM are sexual acts that require consent, just like anything else. If you believe you have experienced sexual violence, there are resources available to support you.

Safewords: 

A safeword is a word or signal that ends BDSM instantly. Safewords are necessary to ensure that any sexual activity is safe, pleasurable, and consensual. Here are some ideas for safewords that you and your partner(s) can use. As soon as you say your safe word, your partner(s) should respect it, stop whatever they are doing, and check in.

Consent amidst Kink and BDSM is not just having a safeword - other dynamics and pressures can mean that a safeword isn’t necessarily safe to say. Consent should be knowing, voluntary, active, present, and ongoing, no matter the activity.  

After Care: 

After Care refers to the time you and your partner(s) take after engaging in Kink or BDSM to check in with your emotional and physical needs. Certain acts can be physically and psychologically taxing, so it’s important to take time for grounding and checking in with yourself and your partner(s). 

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