When Chicago journalist Randi Belisomo’s husband, CLTV journalist Carlos Hernandez Gomez, was dying of colon cancer, they never had the hard conversations about his final days. He died at age 36 in 2010.
“My husband and I were professional communicators — we made a living talking to people — but we couldn’t talk about his dying,” says Belisomo (GJ06). “I thought if we can’t do it, a lot of people can’t. I want to help people think about this ahead of time so they won’t be making decisions in an emotional time of a crisis.”
Northwestern professor Mary Mulcahy, who was Hernandez Gomez’s doctor, and Belisomo launched Life Matters Media, a website to provide information and support for those involved in end-of-life decisions. The portal includes personal patient stories, medical research, expert columns and other resources.
The initiative began after Belisomo bumped into Mulcahy at the gym after Hernandez Gomez’s death, an encounter that led to a frank discussion about how to talk about the end.
“We want to stimulate conversations so this topic is no longer taboo,” Belisomo says.
In an initiative with the city of Chicago’s Senior Services Area Agency on Aging, Belisomo and Mulcahy are presenting “Starting the Conversation” at all 22 of the city’s senior centers this fall and winter.
Mulcahy, an associate professor of hematology and oncology and a member of the Robert H. Lurie Comprehensive Cancer Center of Northwestern University, hopes to increase and normalize end-of-life discussions.
“It is the greatest gift you can give to a loved one if you die,” she says, “to give them the certainty that they are making the right decision on your behalf.”
Watch Randi Belisomo and Mary Mulcahy talk about the importance of having end-of-life discussions with your loved ones on WTTW's Chicago Tonight.
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